I just got back from 12 days in Arizona, planning and coordinating a beautiful outdoor wedding for the daughter of a friend. Handmade decorations, favors, escort cards, outdoor lighting, tables, chairs, linens, liquor, flowers, hay bales, food, water, ice, ice and more ice… Well it was in Arizona, outside and 95⁰.
After being the “day of” wedding planner for a few weddings I am still amazed how expensive they are. Not to mention ALL the work that goes on behind the scenes, especially if you’re having it on a few acres at your home and expecting 150 people.
While working outside in the heat, I had some time to think about things relating to weddings, like manners and common sense. That is, before my brain began to melt….
- The concept of what a bride’s family and groom’s family pays is really outdated. I can’t ever remember one groom’s family asking for a dowry, so try and get expenses sorted out up front.
- When asked nicely, things – even the near impossible things – can be accomplished.
- RSVP – Répondez S‘il Vous Plaît means – PLEASE RESPOND. So please respond either way by the date requested – NOT the day of.
- Attending a wedding is like attending a well-mannered party. This means you don’t throw food on the floor, even if it is outdoors.
- If attending, bring a gift that lets the couple know you’re helping them start their life together, not allowing them to visit McDonalds for lunch. If you know the wedding is in the future, budget money every week for the gift. You must have been very special to be invited, let them know how special they are.
- I wonder if guests really see ALL the small details that cause brides to become unglued months and weeks and days before the event. As you sit at a wedding, take the time to look around and notice. Consider all the time, effort and money that were put into the event, be grateful for being invited to share in the day, enjoy being dressed up and thank your host. Please don’t complain because things didn’t go the way ‘you’ thought they should.
- Fathers, Mothers, Uncles and Aunts need handkerchiefs.
- When attending a wedding where favors are given, please take them. They meant a lot to the bride as she painstakingly put them together.
- I love that family and friends help out before the big day and when they’re dressed up on the day of. They roll up their sleeves and help with everything you ask.
- Doing whiskey shots with good friends after all the work is done is Priceless!
This has got me wondering what my children’s weddings will be like? It may just be time for another whiskey…!
Grateful for you